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Traffic Jam

“Travelling home from holiday we had quite a few choices of routes home. All really much of a muchness (or so we thought!). For on our chosen route we encountered a traffic jam – a big one. One that had us in stop / start manoeuvres for a good 30 minutes. Frustrating enough if there’s just you in the car, but add in 3 children and it can be even more so.

I am sure I spent a good 5 minutes day dreaming about the “what if’s” of the other routes. How we would be almost home or how we would have been able to stop off at a café and still have arrived home around the same time. But dwelling on the other routes wasn’t going to make the traffic jam disappear or pass quicker. Dwelling on the what if’s was only making me frustrated. So instead I focussed on us, in our car and making the best of the extended journey. With food and drink handy we had little picnic in the car. We listened to an entire Roald Dahl audiobook that kept us occupied and rather amused. With a title “The Giraffe, the Pelly and me” how could we not be! Our delay passed happily, the boys barely noticing the extended length of the trip. We enjoyed our journey!

Arriving home, some 30 minutes later than our intended arrival time, we still had reached our destination. The traffic jam was not a roadblock, preventing us from reaching our destination it just delayed it somewhat. The main objective of the trip – reaching home – was still achieved.

In life we all face “traffic jams” at some point. Delays in reaching that goal, or fulfilling that dream. We can all have the “what if” moments too – of how life could be moving quicker if we’d made different decisions. It’s important to remember though that delays are not denials. Setbacks are not final. Mistakes are not our destiny. A traffic jam just slows the journey down.

Don’t let failures or detours turn into road block. Instead use it as a step up. Learn the lesson & climb on! (Charlotte Gambill)

God is still directing your steps. Detours and traffic jams will come, but with God you will reach the right destination!

The heart of man plans his way, but the LORD establishes his steps.” (Proverbs 16:9)



Progress in life is not just straight up or straight forward for that matter!

Sometimes I think life is like a game of Snakes and Ladders. One day you are plodding along and whoosh you’ve shot ahead. Then just as easily you land on a snake and can be back where you started. But that’s how you play the game and that’s how you complete the game! A series of slow movements forward, some ladders to shoot up on and some snakes to take you down. That’s the game. And that’s a great picture of life – up’s and downs. The question is how do we handle it.

Bear Grylls, who in 1998 was the youngest Briton to climb Mt Everest, provided this insight – “The process of the climb meant that we would have to ascend then descend the mountain continually. This would allow our bodies to acclimatize to a high point, before coming back to Base Camp to recover. It is how you climb a mountain. You reach the threshold of altitude that your body can cope with, then come back down to rest. Then up a bit higher to acclimatize to a greater height and then back down again… They say that to climb Everest successfully, you actually climb the mountain five times over – in the process of going up and down.”

If we can grasp this concept we will realise that a setback does not necessarily constitute failure. We may get frustrated of going back a few steps. But it enables God to move us further ahead and faster the next time. Don’t allow any set back to become bigger than your come back!

GOD wastes nothing: He has devised a system in which distasteful discarded manure becomes valuable fertilizer to make things grow. Clue in! (Sy Rogers)

And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love Him, who have been called according to His purpose. (Romans 8:28)

A failure is not your final destination. When you are down to nothing God is up to something! Remember that a rubber band is not usable until it is stretched, a tea kettle sounds best when it is up to its neck in hot water and a wheel barrel doesn’t work unless it is pushed

 Hang in there. Run when you can, walk when you have to, crawl if you must; just never give up. – (Bear Grylls)





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